If you're called to discuss serious allegations made against you, which, if proven, would constitute improper conduct, the desire to offer an immediate defence is almost overwhelming. Don't!
Keep your wits about you. Make the meeting an exercise in careful listening — not speaking. Don't pass up your opportunity to:
- Hear what your head believes are the circumstances;
- find out how seriously the matter is viewed;
- get copies of any relevant, already existing documents.
Some hints:
- Take careful notes.
- Don't rely on human resources to protect your interests. (Human resources exists to help your boss manage you.)
- Don't ask for anything to be put into writing that isn't already.
Finally, when you're asked to respond, say:
"Is there anything else that you think I should know about this? [Pause] This needs careful consideration and, of course, I'll be taking some advice. Because of the nature of the concerns I'll be seeking Union representation. Thank you, then, for letting me know your concerns. As soon as I've been able to check on the availability of a Union representative I'll call to set the date and time for our next meeting. [Stand up, smile, shake hands.] Thank you." [Leave.]
Call the Union. ▪
Why can we remember the tiniest detail
that has happened to us,
and not remember how many times
we have told it to the same person.
—François de la Rochefoucauld (1613-1680)